Today Kaakul said, “Kal ki chhutti hai”.
“Kyun?”, I asked.
“Kyonki kal money ka birthday hai”, she replied.
The 2nd October
Those Comparing Parents!
I keep observing this as a pattern in parents for years. Somehow, I wish they could change it.
Here are some examples.
You start showing some of the most beautiful pics of your kid and you hear, “bhai, ye chhodo. hamaare bachche ke photos dikhaao”.
Another incident. You observe a development in your kid which maybe every parent observes in their parenthood journey. Remember, those happy moments?
As you share them with someone, you get that immediate reaction, “Oh, my child did the same even better!”
You feel that someone crushed your feelings with a bulldozer.
Why to compare at all? Why can’t we hear and be part of a parent’s happiness in that moment? You’ll find tons of opportunities to share yours as well.
Failure and Learning
me:
failure is always good as long as you learn something from it
you get to learn the most only from failures
Neeraj:
yup .. exactly …. that’s what we call experience
me:
I think we call it learning from mistakes 😛
Neeraj:
😀 😀
me:
without making mistakes one doesn’t really understand
everything looks like preaching
Where are we going?
Children are singing and dancing on “Munni badnam hui” and “Shiela ki jawani” just because they don’t have any choice. Nobody makes movies and songs for them and also don’t feel any social obligation towards them. I have to make a real conscious effort to find suitable songs for my daughter Suhani. However in practice, most of the parents may not have the understanding or time. Consequently, adult and filthy entertainment (sex and violence) keeps on going in front of small kids. As parents are also so busy in their life and also children don’t have many similar aged kids to play with, keeping children in front of TV looks like a big shortcut which in the end may not work that well for kids.
In bollywood, it has become fashionable of sort to use explicit abuses and scenes. Almost all songs are loud dance songs. Soothing. peaceful or sad songs have disappeared. Even actresses are also singing “character dheela”. Ram Gopal Varma uses explicit abuses on twitter. He makes a movie based on Neeraj Grover murder case which is one of the goriest murder stories in last few years. The murder accused Maria goes free and receives a movie offer by RGV and also a proposal to appear in next “Big Boss”. It’s quite surprising that for some girls, the ideal is Rakhi Sawant to gain the quick fame. Dolly Bindra brings very loud, abusive attitude in Big Boss and becomes a celebrity and charges hefty fee to appear in TV serials. So fame and quick money corresponds to how loud, violent and vulgar you are. Times of India as a newspaper had top 10 smooches of 2010 yesterday and today it had top 10 lovemaking scenes in this year.
People have lost the sensitivity Indians were known for. One of my colleagues dies in a car accident and surprisingly workplace looks exactly same next week. If you dont drink you will feel coming from just another world . Drinking among Indian girls is “hap” thing today. Almost all TV serials are based on the domestic violence and infidelity. Comedy serials are just filthy vulgar and double-meaning satires in which only judges laugh.
TV news is just focused on sensational stories. The same news which was of 20 min duration, 20 years ago has got elongated to 24 hours because of all these news channels. News is replaced with bollywood gossips and TV reality serials.
One lady is repeatedly raped just a KM away from my residence in DDA Sports complex. Many girls have been gang-raped by auto-drivers or abducted straight from open roads. Inflation has made such in-roads that things have become just doubly costly and a common man can just see it happening. Depression has become very common among city dwellers where social contact has become rarity.
Earlier people used to think why a relative came to their house as it was quite regular affair. Now people beg those same relatives to visit them as they feel all alone in this big city. So at the expense of such an economic boom the question is – where are we going?
It’s just business
Chandan:Hey. how are you?
J. Raja:I’m good. how have you been?
Chandan:jo suna hai sach hai kya?
J. Raja:??
Chandan:u joined Future Constructions
J. Raja:yep ..
Chandan:nice
J. Raja:doesn’t mean you should stop talk to me .. 😉
Chandan:just…wondering ki kispe bharosa karoon kispe nahin
J. Raja:oh cmon, i joined them in June .. and had no such plans back in Jan/Feb
Chandan:what about ur those talks…about what people already thought about when u resigned…
I have no problems in your joining with any company…but it looks like I misjudge sometimes 🙂
J. Raja:Which talks are you referring to? 🙂 I don’t think I have been contradictory and there are 3-4 things going on and my association with Future Constructions is one of them
Chandan:People already told that u will join them…and me only trust on what u said
J. Raja:At that time, I had no plans on “joining” here. I served out my notice period with sincerity in my work. I didn’t “join” Future Constructions to get back at Lakshman Associates.
My association with Future Constructions is more complex than you think.
Chandan:Raja…it has nothing to do about ur intention…I don’t care about good or bad intentions. It was just my trust…thats it.
Trust on what u said…at the time when you were in problems
J. Raja:I can understand where you’re coming from. I hope your perception of me can change although I can’t force that to happen. 🙂
like the quote from The Godfather “It’s just business” .. hehe
nice talking to you..am off to Kashmir tomorrow on my vacations .. cant wait!
Chandan:Ok. take care and good luck!
J. Raja:thanks..